Month: December 2022

Today, I was in downtown LA with a friend I haven’t seen in two years.

We went to a ramen restaurant called “Rakkan” and Angel City Brewery for beer.

It’s Sunday afternoon.

Beer and ramen are the best.

For some reason, we got into a conversation about sexual desire today.

Both he and I have a high sex drive.

We used to have a lot of fun and were always chasing girls.

He is an American, but he visits Japan often.

We enjoyed various nightlife activities until he had a wife.

I loved girls and was always looking for someone.

I used to feel like I wasn’t alive if I didn’t have sex.

Lately, I don’t have a girlfriend, so it’s been a while.

I have stopped masturbation and watching pornographic videos. So I have started to stay away from that kind of thing.

When I was far from my sexual desire, I realized that I was always looking for a woman, so I began to wonder if this was some kind of strong dependence.

There is a word in America called Blue Balls, which I learned from him today, and it means “to be horny from women but they cannot come”.

It sounds in hell that It means the pain that comes from doing something that makes you horny but you cannot produce sperm.

Stopping such horny behavior will decrease sexual performance. No need to use your　penis, so then it will be a natural result. And that will be very scary for all guys.

But it may be necessary for boys who are always thirsty in search of girls.

Masturbation itself may be an ancient practice.

It may have been around since ancient times, but I thought, “Animals are also left to nature, and should be left to nature.”

For men with strong sexual desires, not trying to be erotic is a very good way to focus on oneself.

In fact, I felt that my recent behavior had improved because I had stopped masturbation and started living.

I thought that masturbation is not biologically necessary and that it is always good for health to masturbate twice a week, but in the end, when it comes out, it comes out on its own, or it is absorbed by the body, or it depends on the person’s own way of thinking.

I would like to refer you to other articles on the subject of rising testosterone and medical science, but I think it is up to the individual to decide.

But I felt two things.

First, I can focus on my own growth.

Eroticism is something that gets in the way.

If you only think about girls, you can’t really improve yourself.

Self-development is about exploring what you love.

Enhancing it is about reducing your various desires and focusing on your inner feelings.

I think it is to concentrate on one’s inner feelings.

By the way, eroticism always comes from the outside.

I think it is mostly from sight.

I haven’t tried it, but if you were a man alone on a desert island for ten years, you wouldn’t be in erotic mode.

Secondly,

I can know what kind of things are important to me.

Love too much and eroticism are blind.

Men, in no small part, will have expectations when they go on a first date with a cute woman, for example.

Of course, some may not be interested in erotic acts at all.

But for those who are interested, eroticism starts to get in the way of seeing her true nature and her good and bad qualities.

This is the best thing to realize.

Because if you rewrite a girl’s goodness into eroticism, you will repeat the same thing again and you will only judge a person’s goodness by her eroticism (appearance).

In our modern society, where desires always surround us. No one will tell you if it is good enough.

We don’t get enough our information from the Internet.

Eventually, we need to do and learn for ourselves.

I thought that we need to control our desires better.

All desires, whether they be food, sleep, or sex, can be problematic if too much is taken.

It’s not just about the amount.

But we also need to pay attention to how we take it.

However, My friend’s friend is having a lot of fun in Japan. He has been having physical relations with models and porn stars at a very fast pace.

I was honestly envious when I heard that.

But in my case, I don’t envy them anymore now because I unwired eroticism to transform. Honestly, maybe a bit but If I refuse to watch their flashy YouTube videos, I don’t have any information to compare.

I didn’t have to think about how much better they are than others.

And I also compare myself to the rich people I see on social media, and I feel unhappy when I obsess over things I don’t have.

It is up to each person to decide what makes them truly happy.

I would like to be more in control of my desires and to know what I really want from within.

Then I have stopped thinking that everything I see or hear is information I need.

I don’t want to be excited by external factors. I want to know what I want from within.

And I have to ask myself, “What is the point of continuing to seek it out?” Is it really a good thing or not?

I would like to continue this research, not easy, but never ending.

Thank you for reading.

To relate an article: [Mental Heal] do you know how to deal with Greed

The sky is cloudy.

Or rather, the sky is smoky because the mountains are burning too much.

I had no idea that the sky color would change so much when the mountains burned.

On days like this,

It is hard to get excited.

However, I realized that when the weather is not so good, I am helped a lot by the wonderful weather in California.

It is nice to have nice weather after all.

The environment in which you live is very important for survival.

Live in a place you like which is better for your health.

But sometimes it is not easy to live here, even if you want to live where you live now, because of money reasons such as rent, family problems, or visa problems if you are from another country.

In fact, I have recently been thinking that being in a place you love can be a battle against so many hardships.

Love, work, the house you live in, whatever that when you love something or someone, you will suffer more than when you don’t love it.

We suffer from the attachment that we cannot give up.

But that’s just because you’re not living in the moment.

When you want to let go of attachment, bring your thoughts back to the present.

You know, just the weather was overcast and I was feeling a little down, then fear would come in my mind.

For me, when I looked back on my day, I found myself feeling anxious about the future, vague about what I wanted to be, perhaps because of my attachment to what I wanted to be, and my thoughts were going to and from.

My thoughts were going this way and that way, and I was not able to focus on the present.

So, I thought about coming back to the here and now.

We don’t know what will happen in the future.

Wildfires could come up here and burn my house to the ground.

I might not be able to live here tomorrow, in the town I love.

Or I may suddenly lose everything.

If I spend all my time worrying about such uncertainties, I will not be able to enjoy the present.

When I am stuck on it then, I always chant to my brain, “Focus on now, now, now.”

In fact, even death feels unimportant when I live in the present.

I am anxious about death, I am anxious that the people I love will hate me, I am anxious about losing my place to live, I am anxious about failure in the future, I am anxious about losing money, etc.

Having attachments causes a lot of anxiety to run through our brains.

We can’t eliminate all of them.

But to think that “Now, now, now!” is a good idea.

In Zen, there is a term called 放下著 (hougejaku), which means to let go of attachment.

It tells us that if we let go, we can use our energy for other things.

But you may not know how to let go.

After a heartbreak, it is not so easy to forget someone you love or to let go of an attachment.

My own ideas on how to let go are that I believe that living simply in the present moment is the best way to let go of attachments and to enjoy life.

The important thing is to bring your thoughts to the present and focus on them.

Yesterday and tomorrow are not very important.

To think about how to live now,

Eventually, all of fear really doesn’t matter.

It’s more about living in the now.

I think it is much more important to live in the present than to chase too much after the past or future ideal self.

When I eat dinner with a friend while thinking about something, I don’t enjoy it at all.

Even if it is the last time I have dinner with them.

If you are feeling uneasy about meeting someone of the opposite sex in a casual coffee shop, you will miss the chance to have an enjoyable conversation with them. Or your life will end without even noticing the person.

The scenery changes when you live in the present.

You see the same place and people differently every day.

This awareness is the key to Cherish each and every single moment.

I believe that we can enrich our lives by making the most of the energy we have in the present moment.

I believe that this awareness will enrich our lives.

Thank you for reading.

To relate some article: [Mental Heal] do you know how to deal with Greed

I borrowed a new book from the library today and I feel good about it.

It is a book by author Steve Herz.

I read the beginning of the book right away and am looking forward to reading it all the way through.

I’m getting all kinds of wisdom and I also get a sense of fulfillment from it.

Reading books is really good for the body and mind.

It is similar to muscle training.

However, It’s only recently that I started reading books in earnest.

I think it is hard to find something that enriches your life. Because we are all hard in our life and it is pretty much not easy to keep in your good mind.

I have tried various hobbies in the past such as calligraphy, photography, and instruments.

But the best way to manage yourself is to keep a healthy mind. To control by your health with Workout and reading books are definitely two hobbies that you should try.  

Because they can be done by yourself, no matter where you are.

It is also cost-effective.

I buy or borrow books, but if I go to the library, it’s free.

The changes in me since I started these two things are that I’m getting a little bit bigger, and I like myself a little bit more than before.

It may sound weird, but just looking in the mirror in the morning allows me to enjoy the start of the day with my personal growth.

I used to wake up every morning and feel tired.

But since I started muscle training has helped me to get rid of this feeling.

There are many ways to improve one’s self-esteem, whether it be through study, work, or love.

But they are invisible, and in some cases, they can bring your feelings down.

Muscle training is great because you can see it, you can do it on your own, and it just goes up. No matter how you are ugly, stupid, and low self-esteem that you have it now.

I have also started to pay more attention to my diet, so my body is in better shape.

The other thing is Reading.

When I read a book which means that I’m learning English at the same time\.

At that point, it’s the best hobby I’ve ever had.

I never intended to make reading a regular part of my daily routine, but for some reason I just want to read.

It’s because it’s a book about something I’m interested in. So, reading with my favorite coffee is the most luxurious time for me.

But by incorporating a little bit of this kind of “luxurious time” into my day, I am able to enjoy my days.

I enjoy every day more.

It’s very simple, but….

You should do what you want to do, even if you don’t have time to do it all day.

It is a waste if you don’t try to enjoy your life.

And it is like knowledge of how your brain grows and a new way of life.

Yes, happiness will come from self-discipline.

It’s just another way to go up your life level.

And, It never goes down. All that is going to increase your wisdom and your confidence.

It is especially good to read books that you like.

Any book, manga, mystery novel, or whatever you enjoy is fine.

Actually, I don’t read books I don’t like in my free time and I like to live with the bare minimum of what I don’t like to do.

However, I think just doing a little bit of what I like to do in the time I have available is fine.

Before I wasn’t reading, I had nothing to do.

I think I spent a lot of time watching Facebook, Instagram, porn, etc.

Then I’d be like… I’m a little bit feel like I’m an loser.

Before my mentality, on the contrary, was not that strong. I would think to myself, “I’m losing right now” and I would lower my own tension.

Then, every time I did that, I would lose sight of myself in the present.

I live in the past or the future.

Then you can’t enjoy the present.

But that’s what reading has changed for me to enjoy at the moment.

Well, If you cannot focus you cannot read so,,.

If you are like me, and you feel anxious or attached to something that you can’t do anything about by yourself and meditation or exercise alone won’t help you think about it again, then reading is good for you.

Reading is good for those people who are unable to fill the gaps in their minds with knowledge.

By introducing a new way of looking at things, you can. You will be able to move forward.

I believe that reading is a way to nurture the ability to take action rather than anxiety.

Well, even at my adult age, I learned a lot from my favorite manga, It’s called “Space Brothers.”

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If you change the way you look at things, you will feel more hopeful that you can do it.

That was actually the case.

The way to love yourself is to train your muscles and read books.

It gives you a sense of fulfillment and It also exercises your brain and body.

I realized that “enjoying my growth” is the most important thing in life.

However, I had a hard time realizing to love yourself.

Of course, love, work, and friendship are important. But to look at yourself is the most important thing in life.

You know you will be alone when you pass so many years later, and You need to enjoy yourself as a strong man with what you like to do.

And enjoy the growth, even if it is a little bit at a time.

I did not understand such a simple thing before.

What inspired me to enjoy my personal growth was muscle training and reading books.

From now on I am going to enjoy my growth by myself. It is not for others.

Thank you for reading.

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