Today, I was in downtown LA with a friend I haven’t seen in two years.
We went to a ramen restaurant called “Rakkan” and Angel City Brewery for beer.
It’s Sunday afternoon.
Beer and ramen are the best.
For some reason, we got into a conversation about sexual desire today.
Both he and I have a high sex drive.
We used to have a lot of fun and were always chasing girls.
He is an American, but he visits Japan often.
We enjoyed various nightlife activities until he had a wife.
I loved girls and was always looking for someone.
I used to feel like I wasn’t alive if I didn’t have sex.
Lately, I don’t have a girlfriend, so it’s been a while.
I have stopped masturbation and watching pornographic videos. So I have started to stay away from that kind of thing.
When I was far from my sexual desire, I realized that I was always looking for a woman, so I began to wonder if this was some kind of strong dependence.
There is a word in America called Blue Balls, which I learned from him today, and it means “to be horny from women but they cannot come”.
It sounds in hell that It means the pain that comes from doing something that makes you horny but you cannot produce sperm.
Stopping such horny behavior will decrease sexual performance. No need to use your　penis, so then it will be a natural result. And that will be very scary for all guys.
But it may be necessary for boys who are always thirsty in search of girls.
Masturbation itself may be an ancient practice.
It may have been around since ancient times, but I thought, “Animals are also left to nature, and should be left to nature.”
For men with strong sexual desires, not trying to be erotic is a very good way to focus on oneself.
In fact, I felt that my recent behavior had improved because I had stopped masturbation and started living.
I thought that masturbation is not biologically necessary and that it is always good for health to masturbate twice a week, but in the end, when it comes out, it comes out on its own, or it is absorbed by the body, or it depends on the person’s own way of thinking.
I would like to refer you to other articles on the subject of rising testosterone and medical science, but I think it is up to the individual to decide.
But I felt two things.
First, I can focus on my own growth.
Eroticism is something that gets in the way.
If you only think about girls, you can’t really improve yourself.
Self-development is about exploring what you love.
Enhancing it is about reducing your various desires and focusing on your inner feelings.
I think it is to concentrate on one’s inner feelings.
By the way, eroticism always comes from the outside.
I think it is mostly from sight.
I haven’t tried it, but if you were a man alone on a desert island for ten years, you wouldn’t be in erotic mode.
Secondly,
I can know what kind of things are important to me.
Love too much and eroticism are blind.
Men, in no small part, will have expectations when they go on a first date with a cute woman, for example.
Of course, some may not be interested in erotic acts at all.
But for those who are interested, eroticism starts to get in the way of seeing her true nature and her good and bad qualities.
This is the best thing to realize.
Because if you rewrite a girl’s goodness into eroticism, you will repeat the same thing again and you will only judge a person’s goodness by her eroticism (appearance).
In our modern society, where desires always surround us. No one will tell you if it is good enough.
We don’t get enough our information from the Internet.
Eventually, we need to do and learn for ourselves.
I thought that we need to control our desires better.
All desires, whether they be food, sleep, or sex, can be problematic if too much is taken.
It’s not just about the amount.
But we also need to pay attention to how we take it.
However, My friend’s friend is having a lot of fun in Japan. He has been having physical relations with models and porn stars at a very fast pace.
I was honestly envious when I heard that.
But in my case, I don’t envy them anymore now because I unwired eroticism to transform. Honestly, maybe a bit but If I refuse to watch their flashy YouTube videos, I don’t have any information to compare.
I didn’t have to think about how much better they are than others.
And I also compare myself to the rich people I see on social media, and I feel unhappy when I obsess over things I don’t have.
It is up to each person to decide what makes them truly happy.
I would like to be more in control of my desires and to know what I really want from within.
Then I have stopped thinking that everything I see or hear is information I need.
I don’t want to be excited by external factors. I want to know what I want from within.
And I have to ask myself, “What is the point of continuing to seek it out?” Is it really a good thing or not?
I would like to continue this research, not easy, but never ending.
Thank you for reading.
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