Today, I climbed a mountain in the evening.
Actually, I decided to climb today because I wanted to get rid of my recent obsession that has been piling up. I’ve been troubled by my love life, I’ve been troubled by my work, I’ve been troubled by my life.
I was worried about my future.
Our world, there are many things in life, aren’t there?
It is very difficult to lead a good life if I am worried about your environment, so when I am making a decision, it is very refreshing to climb a mountain.
Well, If you have any worries, I recommend that you climb a mountain.
This time, I would like to talk about the freedom you can receive by letting go of that attachment.
This article is for:
- Those who cannot forget the person they love.
- Those who have a hard time bending themselves in relationships.
- You are suffering from something you can’t do anything about right now. those who are in a situation that is out of their control.
This article is for those who are in a situation that is out of their control.
We sometimes have big emotional states. Such as your dream, who you love, and then, “I really want to get this!” “I really want to be in a relationship with this person!” “I want to be famous!”
There are many things in the world that you really want to get, right? There are also things and people that I just can’t give up on.
“a girl who is the one and only, I can’t think of anyone else!” I spend a lot of time thinking about how to make this relationship go well.
Too much thinking as always.
However, realistically speaking, it is better to let go.
If you don’t want to give up on someone you love in a relationship, you need to let go of trying to get them to understand your feelings. I too suffered a lot because I didn’t want to give up on this love thing.
I didn’t know what to do and wondered whether I should express my feelings of love.
As a result, the more I pursued the other person, both directly and psychologically, the more it was conveyed to the other person, and the more realistic it was that she would move away from me.
I have been thinking that I would like to meet her and talk to her and tell her how I feel about her, but I have decided to let go of asking her for my feelings.
Letting go means that not giving up, it is to let go of setting your feelings free.
For example, if you are in love with someone, if you want a house in an expensive area, if you want to become a celebrity and you want to become more famous, etc. You have something you really want right now, then it will be equally difficult to see your real life.
They are so caught up in what they want that they feel sorry for themselves for not being able to do it (failing makes low testosterones), or they hurt themselves, or they don’t realize how they are really feeling.
And a big problem is when you are stuck in something else that is not you, you cannot concentrate on yourself. As a result, you are not able to live your own life because your sense of self is weakened. It’s as if something is your everything in life, and this is a very bad thing. It is a matter of reducing your attractiveness by half even if maybe it will be less.
Not living your life as you are is a waste of time and effort, and usually does not lead to happiness.
Sometimes, obsession with things you can’t change can cause you to lose sight of your goals and totally change your behavior. Especially when the desire to be loved and accepted by others dominates our thoughts, such as when we are in love or when we want to become famous through our desire for approval.
For example, the brain that is in love is…
- ‘How can I get the person I like to pay attention to me?’
- ‘Should I text him or her? Tell him I love him?’
- ‘Ask him or her out on a date?’
- ‘When and how should I make the other person happy?’
- ‘When is the right time to ask for a date?’
You are worried about things you can’t control, things that other people may already not care about. You can’t help but wonder if you can do something about it. If I become a good person, will the other person change their mind? That is not what we need to be.
For example, if there is a college that you want to go to, but you don’t have enough education or money for tuition, you may be worried about things that you can’t do anything about.
You maybe know that you can save up enough money to pay for school in the next couple of years, and you also know that you can improve your states for academic ability in the meantime, but you want it now, just right now because you want it, so you think too hard about what you can do to get it now and have a big depress every day.
Take, for example, a business contract.
For example, when we want a customer to respond to a contract immediately, but we never hear from them, or when we want them to pay for a product, but the payment is delayed due to their own reasons, we often worry about things that are not within our control.
When we are distressed, we try to do something about it, and when we take action to improve the situation, we invariably get a different result than we expected.
That’s right. Our obsession is to try to change what we think we can do, the other person, or the situation, so the reality is that we can’t change soon, even if we are deeply desirable about it.
Only in our own mind, we think, “I can do it! I think I can do it.” That is great and this is a positive place to be. However, this feeling of self-esteem or positive thinking is only within us. So it is better to assume that others do not know about it and that it does not matter for them. If we impose our ideal on the other person, for example, a person we like, a client we do business with, or a stranger, it is all up to them to receive, and they will not give us the same ideal answer.
So, what should you do?
In the case of love.
Keep thinking about that person, that is the only move you can make when you cannot give up on one. You can have feelings of love for the person, but you will be freer if you let go of the desire for the person’s approval to do or say anything to turn you on.
This is the only person you want to be with, and you really want to be in a relationship with him or her, maybe. But because of that, you cannot move freely, and you spend a lot of time thinking about how to get the person you love to be attracted to you, and you end up neglecting yourself.
Whenever I fall in love, I have a habit of thinking about how to make it work, so I climb the mountain and let go of my attachments.
Whether it will work out or not is the luck of the time. I have to leave it to the universe.
Of course I want it to work out. Once I accept that feeling, I stop thinking about what to do with her. It’s not like I’m going to go on to the next one, just goodbye to my desire for a partner. Adios.
Once I sort out and let go of my feelings and thoughts.
Once you do that, you have freedom.
Enjoying your freedom of mind.
You will lose the time that you have been trapped in, the time that you have spent thinking about how to make things work with that person. There is nothing you can do about it soon.
Most people don’t do this well, so they find themselves thinking about the other person, their work problems, their business partner’s contact, or whatever else they can’t handle. I was the same way. It was hard to let go of them, but they kept coming back to my mind and I couldn’t do it.
I also thought that if I changed my mind, the other person would change his/her mind, and I would make a lot of unreasonable demands of them. But what is more important is to remind myself to look at what I do every day and enjoy it from within.
The pleasure and happiness we get from others or from outside is like a fake.
You may misunderstand me when I say this, but relying on something to make you happy is just like a drug. You have to think about it if you have to live without a partner and without his or her recognition of your love, even though you have it inside of you and that is enough.
If that is the situation, let it go. Let go and be more open. You don’t need to forget about that person. Let go of that feeling that you are stuck.
It’s like you don’t give a fuck with anymore.
It’s like a tree in a river.
You don’t have to think about this or that because you don’t need that kind of control. So you don’t need to wait for them to respond or ask them how they are doing. You just go about your life freely. You don’t get caught up in anything else, and you can feel that the food you are eating is delicious.
Happiness will surely come when you release the attachments that are bothering you and become free. I am sure you will understand what I mean.
There is nothing more painful than a night when you cannot sleep because you are thinking about something that is not going the way you want it to go.
You can be free.
You can live more comfortably.
Your value is infinite.
You should not live your life trapped by anything else.
Why are things going wrong? It’s because you’re not living your life the way you should.
By all means.
Let go of everything that is bothering you right now and free your mind.
You will suddenly feel happy.
People who feel happy and real will be liked by others.
I am sure that by letting go of those feelings, you will feel better and smile.
Things will go smoothly from then on.
Thank you for taking your time with me.
Cheers.